Sunday, July 22

It’s your life. And it’s you who should be the Captain!


I have not written this kind of post since a long time now. It’s the osLt post. You remember this category? In this, I would just keep on talking. The blog has been getting great response since some time now, a month or two; hence I decided to drop this idea because all it was previously done was to increase some page views and nothing else. Anyway, the reason why I am writing this now is, I have something to say, and normally I would have made a story out of it but not this time. I can’t really focus on writing a story and even if I start, I don’t think I would do justice to the points I am about to make. And also, the world really doesn’t need another story on love and relationship and all the things that come along with it.

First and foremost, I think people should stop lying about their feelings. That is the worst thing we do, we tell others we like/love/appreciate/hate/curse/dislike/cry for/laugh with others when we don’t have the slightest of idea where they stand in our life, if they stand at all and all of that for the sake of doing. Sometimes because we don’t want to hurt them, while sometimes we want to hurt them; but remember lying has no good in the long run. Once, I had done one girl a huge favor, and she said ‘I love you!’ I wasn’t sure what I should say so I just said ‘love you too!’ clearly not aware of its consequences. You should really read-Whatever you have heard about him’ to understand. Anyway, the real point is, we should be honest with ourselves and the person we are dealing with; if you don’t like the idea of talking late, tell them upfront; if you don’t like the idea of roaming around bunking classes, tell them UPFRONT; don’t bloody lie to them, because as my Human Resource teacher says with her south Indian accent, ‘Yangsters, we are dealing with yumans here and yumans are unpredictable with everything!’

With that, we should also stop thinking too much when people say something sweet [??]. A few days back a girl told me ‘you mean a lot to me Vineet!’, she might have done it out of pure awesomeness of the joke I cracked [that was a good joke though], but you know how this fucked up mind of mine behaves, I took it as ‘Vineet, I like you!’ When people praise me or my work [both are very rare], I from that moment start taking that person as granted [well, not the right word I guess]. I start assuming they will like everything I do, every joke I crack, everything I say and blah blah blah, which obviously is not based on any sort of scientific theory. And also, sometimes [I will say most of the times] we say things for the sake of it, like if I tell you to read my blog, you’ll have to say something like this ‘oh it’s so nice!’, its normal human psyche, isn’t it? You don’t want to hurt me-not because you care-but because you don’t care. If you cared, you’d tell me what’s wrong with my blog but you would like to ignore all the discussion and so you’d simply say, ‘your blog rocks’, 'go write a book' and stuff like that. I would then put a smiley and the chat would be over-for you, only, I would think about you and your words for the rest of the night. I take praises very seriously. And this is a serious problem. 


I tell you how; see unfulfilled expectations always hurt; you expect your mom would cook the favorite meal tonight and when you reach home there’s no meal at all, you get angry; you expect you’d get good grades in your exams and you don’t, you get angry; you expect someone will keep on saying ‘Your blog rocks’ but they don’t and you get angry. Again, the worst thing about this annoyance is that the person who is the reason has no real clue that you’re angry with them, so quite naturally they behave naturally but you have this volcanic rage  building up inside you struggling to get out that then leads to irrational behavior with them and problems in the long term. It’s how it works with me. I expect a lot. Fortunately I know I have this problem; so these days, I don’t promote my blog really, don’t ask people what they thought of it. Because I believe if it’s good, they’ll read and share it. And if it’s not, they will read and hate it. But that’s the important thing, isn’t? People should be able to love and hate what they want to love and hate, there shouldn’t be a Duckworth-Luis in play. This isn’t just about my blog or something; it works for everything I do; every little thing.


And yes, I really think our generation is ruined, and for me the biggest reason is the songs and movies and TV and internet and social media and want for love and stuff. We’re wasting too much time on all of these things.

I have people around me who watch every single movie [almost] that releases. I wonder, for fucking what? How can you waste two precious hours from your day in which you can do anything productive onto watching a movie which you already know is nothing but shit? What is the point? How many of IMDBs- Top 250 have you watched or how many of the great Indian Movies have you watched? I have nothing against movies, but at least watch some good cinemas. It’s like fantasizing for Rakhi Sawant when you have full access to Diana Digga! [SHE IS MY WIFE, but yeah you can fantasize!]

And now let’s come to music. Why do we listen to so much shit music? What I mean here is, okay wait, check your phone’s music, how many songs do you have that are no way related to Bollywood movies? Very few, right? You getting my point? And wait, before you ride on that pride horse of ‘I have only English music on my phone!’ English songs are not good just because they are English.

See, it’s your time, and it’s on you how you want to waste it, either you can enjoy wasting it, or you can just have the sense of enjoying when all you’ve done is wasted it!

Develop a hobby please; if you love watching movies, do a good sound research on movies; if you love listening to music, learn to play some musical instruments as well; at least do something productive. 
Stop being the victim. Say no to bad relationships. You don’t have to be in a relationship because you have never been in one. You don’t have to fall in love because you’re in college now. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want. Broke up recently? Move on. Because they don’t care, if they did, they wouldn’t have broken up in the first place. 


It’s your life. And it’s you who should be the Captain!




[This post expects nothing, but some more pageviews]


13 comments :

  1. u write really nice, prob is u write too long to read for a person like me. i know its a short blog for u but for readers it still a long one.

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    1. oh, you know these really are the short ones? :D i mean once i start...bas..
      anyways i will try to keep them short. and for that only, i started fiction55 and comic strip.
      thanks for the comment and visit, and do email me to get in touch! :)

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  2. above comment - Ashish Raparia

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    1. Thank you Ashish yaar, i didnt know you read my blogs, great man. and i will definitely try to keep them short now but wont promise anything! :D

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  3. its really grt......and very true....!!!!

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  4. Read this and really loved it :)

    I've added you as a recipient of Liebster Award.

    Here's the link:

    http://randynamicavanish.blogspot.in/2012/07/and-debut-award-goes-to-i-had-started_25.html

    Enjoy yourself! :)

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    1. Thanks a lot man! I will try to write the post as soon as can!
      Thanks anyways! and for the record, it is my first award! yayy! :D

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  5. Loved the comic strip at the end. Very witty, keep writing :)

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  6. Haha,OMG I have the habit of doing the very same thing ! I think too much when people talk to me sweetly
    Just in the morning a guy told me I am his lucky charm and I still cant get it out of my head (Yes, I know STUPID! )

    Your comic strips are really nice Digga :D

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    1. PS : what does osLT mean ? :/

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    2. hahaha, chalo, there's someone who is like me. :D
      and this comic is actual incident. its funny.

      and hTe means The and osLt means Lost. the alphabets themselves are lost in one another which is the main theme of this blog! :P

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